Things have felt a bit hard lately. I had my birthday recently and spent it the way I would have every other birthday – at a bar. Only this time it wasn’t fun for me. Sure, it was great having friends there to celebrate with me – but it ended there. Out of comfort, I decided to celebrate how I always had, but this year is different. I guess I am different. Bars used to be my haven. I used to spend most of my time going to different bars and breweries, thinking I was fulfilled. I thought I had made friends with certain bartenders that I had become a regular at. How naive. Since I have been sober, I have gone to the bar only a couple of times. Those relationships that I thought were real, have been gone in an instant the second I decided to change my life. It makes me feel a bit sad because now I just see inauthentic connections between patron and bartenders and amongst people sitting wasting their life away in those bar stools.
After my birthday experience, it has felt like more of a struggle. I am looking for suggestions on other methods of finding sober community that is not AA. I don’t identify with the word “alcoholic” and do not feel like I have no control over my drinking. I have proven this to myself as I celebrate 6 months sober. I do however feel like I need some sort of social network that doesn’t see going for drinks as the main source of fun.